When Shopping - Size Can Be Unfair
Ok folks.... Time to Lighten up a bit. It’s an interesting time in the world. There is a LOT going on. Socially, economically, spiritually (no matter the belief.) But I feel like we need some positive, light-hearted energy to flow back into the atmosphere, so I figure I’ll start it off. While I’m still going to continue with the series, today I’m going to place my focus on something that MANY of us women; black, white, purple, gender-binary have been loving and dealing with for yearssss. Fashion. Particularly online fashion.
I love clothes but, in the past, my fiancé’, friends, and even my mother have told me that I shop like a man. I have tunnel vision. I know what I’m looking for and how I want it to look. I would go into the store and do a quick run through. Sometimes I would even just stand in the middle or front like a judgmental substitute teacher and scan the area to see if there’s anything worth my time. If not, I quickly move on to the next. If something happened to catch my eye, I run through the sizes, pick mine and promptly check out. After years of doing that I realized that although I was putting clothes in my closet, I wasn’t building a wardrobe or personal style. I had clothes that were trendy but weren’t “me”. Or I had something that I loved on others but knew damn well I should’ve left that inspiration on the rack.
“Like many women, my sizes vary between about 2 sizes”
But I have NOW seen the light (I’m an old millennial so forgive my lateness). Online shopping is IT honey! I LOVE it. Well, most of it. I love the choices, the options, the pricing is usually decent too and even more opportunity for sales. But ohhhhh how I occasionally loath the FIT. Admittedly I am not your average sized adult. I am barely 5’1 (let me have my moment of hope please). My weight is not under 150 but under 200 (that’s all I’m giving you), and I have an hour glass shape with a couple of extra minutes in the middle. In laymen terms I’m thick, with a big butt, and short. And I know some may wonder “why doesn’t she just shop petite?” Novel idea, but for whatever reason, in the petite world it doesn’t seem like having large breast of backsides is an option. So to regular sized people clothing I go. Now tops are not a real issue. Like many women, my sizes vary between about 2 sizes. I can always find a shirt that fits nicely even though at times the arm length is a little weird. My real issues in life are bottoms, skirts, and dresses.
Buying those things online is a gamble that gives me Vegas odds. One site I’m particularly fond of is Fashion Nova. They have the urban high fashion looks for the price that fits my current situation. Cheap. Well some items. They now have a “Luxe” line. I don’t mess with that. But I love getting jeans and dresses there. Here’s the issue. Unless I have completely overlooked it, they don’t have “short sizes”. So I’m able to find jeans in my size 14 and 15 regular, jr, sr, idk anymore. My point is that I will order 3 different items all the same size and they ALLLL fit differently. Let's just put it out there I am lazy as hell. I hate having to pack stuff up, drive to UPS, ship it back to California (where Fashion Nova is located), and drive back home and cry about not having the pants I wanted. I just want them to fit then and there. This is at no fault of Fashion Novas BUT being the way, I am built (and I know MANY women share the same experience) buying bottoms from there is hard.
“Tall with large hips and junk in the trunk, the shorties with the thick bodies like me”
Just this past week I purchased 3 pairs of jeans. One distressed regular wash in size 14, 2 colored paired size 15. Wouldn’t you know the 14 was too baggy?? And the colored jeans fit just right but were a tighter fit. They were all the Same brand and make! But this is not the first time I have experienced this with colored jeans. Is it the dye? (not rhetorical, I really want to know!) I’ve had this problem in Boutiques around the city as well. Rebellious Koture is one of my faves in the Louisville area! They have the same kind of urban chic styles as Fashion Nova that give you a bit of individual flare. Being in my late 30’s, I still find things here that look good, don’t age me, are on trend, but don’t make me look as if I’m trying too hard to relive my early-mid 20 hey days. Again, tops are no problem. But here we go with the bottoms. They fit the entire circumference of my anatomy, but I trip over them even in heels. Or they are short enough but won’t quite go around my “extra minutes”. Big Booty short women are the step-children of the fashion world I swear.
All of this makes me think about other women who may be in my predicament. Tall and Very slender. Tall with large hips and junk in the trunk, the shorties with the thick bodies like me. Or even my Plus sized shorties. Because even though plus sizes need and deserve their own fashion line, they forget there are some bountiful beauties on the very short side too. I believe inclusion in our society has trickled down to even the most minute of situations. It is NOT always a race thing, it is a “them and us” thing. Not always the same “them”, and not always the same “us”. While it is true EVERYTHING is not meant for EVERYONE, if you are going to advertise goods or services to the masses, you should at least try to encompass what the masses represent. Style should be equal opportunity for all.