Have A Relationship with Yourself
When we wake up in the morning we are conditioned to grab our phones. Our phones have become our companions. We sleep with it, rely on it to wake us up in the morning and our phone provides us company when we are lonely or in an uncomfortable situation. We just stare at the glass to distract unwanted attention. If tech support were to dissect our phone they would find every intimate detail of our being.
Ask yourself, why are you scrolling social media feeds and commenting on media post. Who is it benefiting?
Our phone knows us better than we know ourselves. We can't go a day without it. Everyone blames social media including, me. Even if we tell ourselves we are going to disconnect from social media for a day we still find some way to stare at our phone. It's our life. And to some degree, we lost our actual life. We lost having a relationship with ourselves and just knowing who we are and our self worth. It's no wonder so many millennials struggle with balancing life. They have never had the opportunity to just be. We often worry about our loved ones so we keep our cell phone near us, but when we are surrounded by the people we love we can't turn off our phone. No one would ever attempt to have their phone off for more than an hour. The world would cease to exist.
For the past several years the most connected generation is the loneliest generation. Loneliness is a precursor for social stress, and anxiety is the number one complaint amongst millennials. According to Forbes magazine, World of Warcraft players experience less social anxiety and less loneliness when online than in the real world.
In the real world, you have to examine yourself. You have to take time to talk to people and actually engage in a meaningful conversation. It's how we connect with each other. I'm not talking about petty small talk. I mean a challenging conversation that is not in a comment section. You need a conversation where you can look someone in the eyes and say, Hey. I truly like blank because…
Our phone causes us to edit ourselves for others. So when you do meet someone face to face it is hard to be your authentic self or get to know the person you are with. We have lost the art of having insecurities but still be able to face the real world. Just living and breathing and doing day to day task is not enough. We need to stimulate being conscious of what is mentally and emotionally healthy for our life.
There was a time when people believed in the law of attraction and were engaged in the popular release of the movie and book titled The Secret? Everyone was doing their darnedest to truly try to listen to their inner selves but like all things, it came to an end. It could not withstand the power of technology. Our fingers tapping away to surf the web and the smartphone becoming God.
I don't think one has to totally disconnect to have a relationship with yourself. It only takes a few small steps to reconnect with being you. The first step is acknowledging there is a problem and seeking ways to change your narrative. Take 10 minutes out of the day to make a list of the things and people, you like, love and hate. Ask yourself why? By all means, use your phone to make Your list. Ask yourself, why are you scrolling social media feeds and commenting on media post. Who is it benefiting? Most of all get out and meet up with people who challenge you're well being and engage in the topics of your interest. Join a meetup group to get your feet wet and get you out of your comfort zone. Relationships with people are tough but having a relationship with yourself is the most important and rewarding relationship you will ever have in your life.